Bedtime parenting can be challenging. It’s the end of the day, children are tired, and often parents are too. Some evenings there can be angry words and hurt feelings that need tending to the next day. Other nights we manage to catch the opportunity for connection.
An awesome mom of a spirited 3-year old told me how her daughter was stalling going to bed one night, she exclaimed: “Momma, I’m scared!” This mom then acknowledged her daughter’s emotions, and comforted her. After the little girl settled down, her mom reminded her that besides sometimes feeling scared, her daughter was also big and strong.
Kids can be so open when they trust their caregivers to respond sensitively most of the time. This mom validated her daughter, and showed her how to access other feeling states besides her fear. You can sense the sweet connection between them.
Brené Brown defines “connection” as “the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
We are all wired for connection. Creating moments in which others can feel seen, heard and valued invites closeness and growth.
Taking a Garden Break
The swinging fountain grass and delicate flowers beckon me to come outside
to enjoy a break
fluffy and soft plumes
delicate pink-white flowers dancing with ease and grace
the California blue sky limitless above
sunshine adding brightness
the Bay breeze keeping the air cool
in this moment all is well