Outside of my kitchen window overlooking our neighbor’s backyard are amazing wild roses. Some days the raindrops sit on the leaves after the spring showers, and today a few are already wilting and ready to drop their leaves. Others remain in tight buds, full of promise for the upcoming bloom.
Last week, my younger daughter screamed with delight upon hearing that her friend was accepted into the university and theater program he wanted, after having taken a gap year to strengthen his application. The tulips she gave him to celebrate bent towards the light and began to open.
Nature reminds us that beginnings and endings are part of life, with many ups and downs in between. As parents we are asked to adjust constantly to developmental stages, and to connect in new ways.
In a recent group session, a mother of a college student was filled with nostalgia when her son returned from college to visit over spring break. She was delighted with his return, however now that her children are older, they are more interested in venturing out than being at home.
Time passes quietly. How can we nurture our connections and make the most of the moments we have together? I trust the value of showing up, listening, and being supportive. Inwardly, I try to slow down to tend to my own experience with kindness rather than judgment. Doing so helps to cultivate awareness of any reactivity, so it is less likely to sneak out unconsciously. Our own tender heart and that of others are well worth tending to.
May this season bring you growth and connection.
Knowing life is short
Enjoy it day after day
Moment after moment–Suzuki Roshi
